What are some uncommon ways to work smarter not harder?

Work Smarter Not Harder

This post originally appeared as an answer on Quora HEREquora

  • Take the first parking spot you see. Period.
  • When vacationing with kids, order supplies like formula and diapers from Amazon and have it delivered to your hotel so it’s waiting for you when you get there.
  • Buy a new car with a warranty: the poorest people end up spending the most money on  cars when they purchase the cheapest one they can find that constantly needs repairs. $500 here, $1000 there. Sometimes trying to save money costs you too much.
  • Starbucks mobile app when you are 2 minutes away. Or even waiting in a long line. As soon as the order comes through its added to the queue, and skips the line you are standing in.
  • Services like Trunk Club that do your clothes shopping for you, sends you a trunk, try 2zLQAV1Pon what you like and return what you don’t like by returning the trunk. UPS deliveries it and picks it up from your house. Not a necessity but MUCH better than going to the mall. IF you do have to go to the mall, take the first parking spot you see.
  • Automate savings and investing. Whether it’s a pay check or other income source. Set up automatic transfers or withdrawal into another account for Future You. Set it and forget it (but maybe review it once a year and reallocate where necessary)
  • Don’t worry about trying to make a quick return on investments, instead focus on DCA or Dollar Cost Averaging. Be the tortoise, not the hare.
  • Never stop learning. Turn your car into a university on wheels. This means no more talk radio, instead replace it with audio books.  Or better yet download AUDIBLE and subscribe to get discounts and 2 free books Audible – The Cash Flow Lifestyle
  • If you don’t drive then do this on your work commute. When you walk the dogs. When you work out. Be more efficient with your time. Never waste time.
  • If you aren’t handy, hire a handyman. Whatever you do in life to make your money you are better at than trying to fix the toilet or repair an outlet. Spend your hours doing your thing so you can afford to pay others to do theirs.
  • Wake up early. Exercise. Meditate. Eat well. Take care of your body. Be nice to others. Stay humble. Work hard even if you are smarter. Everyone I know who does these things are happier people.

This Is The Most Difficult Thing to Learn and Accept About Life

I recently answered this question on Quora.com, and it has since been viewed nearly 300,000 times (as of February 5th, 2016). Click here for original post. 

I thought I would share it with my readers here and see what your thoughts are regarding my answer. I appreciate you!

Question: What is the Most Difficult Thing To Learn and Accept About Life?

 

1. People usually aren’t listening. They are either thinking of what they are going to say next, or something else entirely.

2. Everyone is insecure about something, it’s not just you.

3. You are going to die no matter what.

4. Your kids will experience hardship.

5. The bigger an organization is, the harder it is to make a change even if the need is so obvious.

6. Some people are bad and have bad intentions.

7. Many people (not all) will steal $100 from you today even if it means missing the opportunity to earn $1000 from you next week.

8. You will never be 100% sure about decision ever. But always make a decision because it’s better to go back and fix it than to never make it at all.

9. There is ALWAYS someone who makes more money than you, is more fit, has a better looking spouse, has an easier life, good things happen to them. Usually more than just one.

10. How you react to an event, problem, emotion, or anything, is more important than the actual event, problem, emotion or whatever. You cannot control your emotions, you cannot control others, all you can control is how you are going to react. Sometimes it’s easy but usually it’s really really hard.

The biggest negative reaction I received in this post was regarding number 10. 

However, the responders typically missed my point. When I wrote: you cannot control your emotions, many took that to mean there was nothing you could do about it.

This is not my point at all. My point is that you cannot control how something will make you feel. Thats it. Exterior forces and events will happen that might piss you off, make you sad, humble you, break you, knock you on your ass and then kick you in the teeth while you are down. 

But just because you feel a certain way doesn’t mean you have no control. You choose how you will react. You don’t choose your feelings.

He who angers you conquers you.

I have done many stupid things as a result of my emotions. Many of which I regret. Through self reflection, meditation and studying emotional intelligence, I find myself reacting to my emotions less and less every year.

Emotional intelligence is a skill that can be developed and strengthened. But like any skill, it is only achieved through dedicated practice and awareness.