Success Can Be Learned, It’s Just Rarely Taught

Success isn’t magic. There is no secret. As the creator of Dilbert, Scott Adams will tell you “It’s generally the product of picking a good system and following it until luck finds you.”

Wise words.

So why is there such a misconception about success? Mostly because it is never taught. Our school systems were designed to prepare children for the workforce. How to sit still, do what you are told and raise your hand to go to the bathroom.

The problem is that the workforce no longer exists like it once did. The future of the workforce is serving coffee, repairing robots and mixing drinks behind a bar. Yes, this is a generalization, but that doesn’t make it any less accurate.

Prior to the industrial revolution, most of what would today be referred to as the workforce were actually entrepreneurs. Many studied under masters of craft as an apprentice, learning important skills to one day take over or start a new business entirely.

In fact, we as humans are much more entrepreneurial historically than we are worker bees.

But thats not what they teach us in school.

If you think about it, the average kid spends essentially no time around highly successful people. The only success they might ever be around comes from movies and television. They see the 18 year old kid get drafted to the NBA or the start-up founder ringing the bell at his IPO, but they don’t see the years spent in the gym shooting jumpers and the many failures and sleepless nights that every entrepreneur endures. Success can be taught

 

The More Skills You Have, The More Chances You Have For Success

If you aren’t working hard to improve yourself and your situation, then how can you ever expect a change? It’s ok if you haven’t thought about it like this before, but its not ok if you don’t do something about it now.

What no one told you before is that the act of learning is actually a skill you can work on, develop and improve. The more you learn the more likely you are to achieve success.

Its like buying a lottery ticket that never expires and the numbers are called constantly. Every skill is a new lottery ticket in hand that could cash in at any time. If you are just sitting on one ticket, your odds are still poor.

Successful people keep adding tickets. All of the time. Even when they become successful.

Nothing comes to those who wait. Good things come to people who work their asses off.

You don’t even have to be an expert!

You don’t need to master these skills. It helps, but mastering one skill has a law of diminishing returns. Consider someone like Curt Shilling who mastered the skill of being a baseball Pitcher, but never developed business acumen. He was very successful at one thing and very unsuccessful at another.

Now take someone like Scott Adams, the creator of Dilbert. He is admittedly ok at a few things that equal great success. For example: ok at business, mediocre at drawing, ok at marketing, ok humor, incredible work ethic and master of learning. This has made him a very rich and famous person.

Success can be taught

Some skills are more valuable than others. But every new skill learned makes you better at the skill of learning new skills. (Read that part again. Its important)

If there is one great skill to master, its the ability to learn new skills. Just learning how to code won’t make you the next Mark Zuckerberg, but learning how to code, brand yourself on social media and how to speak a foreign language could REALLY open up a lot of opportunity for you around the world.

Being good at multiple things can trump being excellent at one thing. For example, speaking conversational Spanish and knowing how to create a website might be more valuable than only mastering Spanish or only knowing about websites.

How do I become a better learner?

That’s easy! Start with things you like and enjoy. Then expand from there. Set yourself up for success from the beginning.

Going from 0 to 100MPH for someone who has never driven a car before is just silly.

Set out to learn one new thing in the next 6 months Devour it completely. Then move on to something else.

You are NOT to busy. You are NOT too old. You are MAYBE too lazy, but that can be fixed.

Step One: Read Scott Adam’s book How To Fail At Almost Everything And Still Win BigSuccess can be taught

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A New Year, SAVERS and The Miracle Morning

Happy New Year Everyone! I hope you enjoyed yourself and indulged a bit. Its good for you. Really, it is.

2015 was an incredible year for me personally.

I wrote a book. My 2nd child was born.

I got really sick, stayed sick, but then got better. (Doctors are still unsure what it was, but says my blood work is ok now.

My company Myriad Real Estate tripled our business from the previous year (mostly due to Facebook which I wrote a book about.)

I also discovered The Miracle Morning. I’ll be honest, the original book is not amazing. The concept is incredible, but for someone who reads a lot (me) it wasn’t the best writing.

I do recommend this book, which is a sequel to this book. Here’s the scoop: Michael Maher wrote a book called 7 Levels of Communication. It is fictional story told in a novel format about a character who develops and learns great sales techniques. I recommend it for anyone in sales even though this book is about the real estate business.

Hal Elrod wrote The Miracle Morning, a true story about his life, and then teamed up with Michael Maher to co-write a sequel to 7 Levels of Communication based on the principles taught in The Miracle Morning. Confuse yet? No? Ok good!

Conclusion: I took the lessons learned from The Miracle Morning and applied it to my own life. For those who are familiar, there is a technique called SAVERS and the idea is to wake up early and start your day with SAVERS every morning. Win the morning, win the day.

Savers means:

Silence: Meditation or actually just sitting in a room silently for a bit. I struggled with this for a while and really took a leap when I download the app Headspace on my phone. There were 10 free days of guided meditations an I loved it so much I bought a year subscription.

I used to be against meditation merely because I thought it was lame. I was so naive. I still am I suppose, but at least I meditate now.

The problem is, I don’t do it nearly enough. I never feel like I have time which is my least favorite excuse about anything. On days I meditate, everything slows down for me. There is less confusion and more clarity. I compare it to when Keanu Reeves as Neo in the Matrix finally discovers his powers and is able to not only dodge bullets but stop them. You should try meditating.

There are many different types of meditation. I have found that guided meditation works best for me. It might work for you too. If it doesn’t, I wouldn’t give up trying other methods.

Affirmations: This means clearly defining your goals and what you want to achieve. A complete affirmation would be something like: I am going to write and publish my first book by July 1st and I will accomplish this by dedicating 2 hours every day to writing and editing until completion.

Do you see how this is different than: “In 2015 I will write a book.”

If you start each morning reading and writing these affirmations, then you will set yourself on the right path to achieving them throughout the day.

Visualization: What does the perfect day look like? Visualize it. Your commute to work, your meetings throughout the day, what you will say to your boss, everything! This essentially becomes a practice run of your entire day. As you continue to implement this you will have much better control of your thoughts and emotions throughout the day. Very powerful stuff.

Exercise: This doesn’t have to be an intense gym session. Just something to get your heart rate up. You can still hit the gym later in the day if thats your style, but the morning exercise wakes up the brain, gets your blood flowing and will result in you drinking less coffee throughout the day.

Reading: No, not Twitter or Facebook. A real book. A self help or motivational book. Get your mind stretched out with some positive and potent thoughts. Its like a morning workout for your brain. Even a chapter at a time or just 10 minutes is enough to set you off in the right direction.

Scribing: Just means writing, but scribing starts with an ‘S’ and that better fits the acronym. Journaling is very underrated in our society. There was a time when all the bad ass members of society kept journals. Today, it mostly consists of teenage girls. I hope this changes.

My Results:

I was SHOCKED how much of a difference the meditation would make. I was also SHOCKED with how much I not only enjoyed journaling, but how much it decreased much of my anxiety. I would go back a month and read some of my entries only to see that 30 days ago I was really stressed about something that today I didn’t even remember.

How often does that happen to us? I’ll tell you: a lot! We spend way too much time worrying about things that never will happen. Try it. Start journaling and then look back every few weeks and reflect on how far you have come.

I never write more than 2 paragraphs. Often just one paragraph. Things I am thinking, things I have to do that day, things I love and things I don’t love.

During this time I also lost over 3o pounds.

Maybe I should have started with this?

It started for me just by waking up earlier. If I wanted to get up before Penelope (my new born) I had to wake up at 4am. If I didn’t, she would wake me up at 4:30. I found that when I took control and got up on my own, my day improved and I didn’t resent her for not letting me sleep (parents know what I mean).

If I wanted to wake up at 4, then I had to get to bed by 10. This meant watching less TV at night, but also less drinking alcohol. It was hard at first, but then I began to really look forward to my mornings. I spent time with just Penelope, which is hard to do with a toddler and a business.

So now I wake up at 4am, give my daughter a bottle, she falls back to sleep, and I spend an hour or so doing SAVERS. Then its 5am and I have a coffee and feel incredible. The sun is still asleep, my family is still asleep and I am wide awake and focused. Now I either start writing (working on my second book) or answering questions on Quora.

By the time 8am rolls around I have already accomplished more than most people do all day, including me only a few months earlier.

Its ok if you aren’t a morning person. I wasn’t either.

Its ok if exercising early sucks. I still don’t like it. (I just like how I feel after)

Its ok if you don’t want to improve your life and feel good all the time. It doesn’t matter to me either way.

All I know is I am far from perfect and even I do not follow SAVERS morning every day. But the days in which I do I enjoy much more, so I am just trying to get a little bit better every day.

How about you?

 

16 Things I Learned While Writing My First Book!

16 Things I learned from writing my first book.

I recently published my first book (Available on Amazon)I have wanted to write and publish a book for quite sometime, but starting tomorrow always seemed much more convenient than starting today.

And then tomorrow came.

And then another one.

Eventually I knew I had to try something drastic if I really wanted results. So I made an announcement:

“My new book is set to be released August of 2015!”

I shared this in an email to everyone I knew. Facebook. Twitter. Instagram.

It was now out there. The only problem was that it was March of 2015, and I hadn’t written a single word yet.

On Thursday, September 2nd, 2015, Amazon published my first book. I missed my self imposed deadline by a couple days. Here are a few things I learned along the way:

1. To achieve something big, accountability is crucial. I announced my new book to everyone I knew. They didn’t know that I hadn’t started, and to be honest, were pretty busy with their own things to even notice. But being the narcissistic person that I am, I felt that I couldn’t let everyone down. They were expecting a published book by August of 2015 and it was up to me to deliver it!

 

2. Writing a book is hard. I have been writing for as long as I can remember. In fact, I always wrote ‘too much’ when it came to school assignments growing up. I would just get carried away and a 3 page paper would turn into 10. Teachers didn’t like to grade 7 extra pages. (Did I mention I didn’t do too well in school?)But nothing compares to writing an entire book. You tell yourself “I need a beginning, middle and an end.”

And then you start writing and realize every chapter needs a beginning, middle and and end. And then you write your introduction and it needs a beginning middle and an end.

And then you read everything you have written and none of it makes any sense.

Perfect.

 

3. Doing much of anything, including writing a book, with a newborn child at home is really difficult!

 

4. Finding an impartial and 3rd-party editor/proof reader is a MUST. It doesn’t matter what you tell yourself when you give a rough draft edition to a friend or family member because you WILL get defensive when they give you edits or advice. Better to outsource this to a professional, and then listen to what they have to say.

 

5. Write every damn day. I was given this advice when I started by more than one author and I thought it was good advice. And then I went one day without writing and then another. By the time day 3 rolled around and I got back to it, I might as well have started over from the beginning! The mental hurdle of getting back into the rhythm and also trying to pick up my train of thought was much too daunting. Even if its just a little bit, write every day.

 

6. Don’t tell anyone what your book is about until you are finished. All it takes is one small comment from a friend, family member, or even a stranger, all of whom are most likely not your target audience anyway, and you will feel deflated. Writing against your own self-doubt is challenging enough, so don’t add anyone else’s to the process.


7. Delegate the parts you suck at.
If you want to write a book, then just focus on the writing. I delegated my cover design to 99Designs.com and have a kick ass cover. I decided to do the e-book formatting myself and now my formatting sucks.If you want your book to look like a real book, focus on the writing and delegate the rest. (www.elance.com , www.freelancer.com , www.fiverr.com , www.99designs.com are all great resources to find exactly what you need for items like editing, proof reading, cover design, formatting and more)

 

8. Give yourself a deadline. If you don’t, then tomorrow will always seem much better than today. But in the end, do remember that it is your own self imposed deadline. I grew very depressed when August came and went and I didn’t feel that I was anywhere close to having a completed version prepared. But in hindsight, if I didn’t create this deadline in the first place then I most likely would still be trying to finish it now!

 

9. Write in Rythm. Try and write the same time every day, and also write every day. Rhythm is great, and even if you are just writing a little bit one day and a lot another day, the pattern and habit you are creating is crucial to completion.

 

10. Be Passionate. You must really enjoy what it is you are writing about, or else you will quit or your eventual reader will wish that you had.

 

11. Provide as much value as you possible can in the least amount of words possible. In our Twitter and Facebook age, its really hard to finish an entire book. This is also because the traditional book is too often 100 pages too long! In order to justify the costs of cutting down the tree and publishing a bunch of books for $19.99, the publisher feels a book should be a minimum of 250 pages.Even if the book should only be 100 pages, or maybe even less!

Don’t feel that you have to fill up pages, instead just focus on providing a lot of value in as few pages as possible.

 

12. Read up on other authors in your field. Whatever you are writing about or whatever you style is, research other authors that have done similar books that you are attempting. By understanding that they also struggled with the process but eventually produced a good piece of work will encourage you to stay on point.

 

13. Only take advice about your book from people that have written a book. I have found that the people who have achieved the least usually have the most advice to give me. Be cautious.

 

14. Know your audience and decide early on if this is a book for you or for a specific audience. Then write your book accordingly and continue to remind yourself of your answer.

 

15. Don’t worry about trying to sell 100,000 copies. Instead focus on trying to sell 1000 copies. By targeting a smaller niche, your book can specify its theme to a smaller audience, thus providing a closer connection with your readers. This will provide you with the opportunity to write more books with a built-in fanbase. And if you try and please everyone you won’t please anyone.

 

16. Good today is better than perfect tomorrow. It will be really hard to finally submit your book for publishing. There is always one more edit you need to make or one more read-through. If you focus on providing a ton of value, then its easier to submit to the fact that your book will never be perfect. Publish it and move on to the next one. Besides, you can always publish a revised edition a year from now!

 

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The 7 Best Books For Real Estate Agents at Any Experience Level

The 7 Best Books For Real Estate Agents

What books should every real estate agent read? Whether you are a brand new real estate agent. or an experienced veteran, these are the best books available for anyone in the real estate sales business!

Know someone thinking about entering the business? Send them this list! If you can commit to the strategies outlined in these books, you will have not only a successful career but a very enjoyable work-life balance!

Not every book on this list is ‘real estate agent specific’, but each one will help you improve and increase your business and personal happiness.

Click book titles for link to Amazon

 

 

The 7 Best Books For Real Estate Agents:

 

1. Seven Levels of Communication– Michael Maher
One Sentence Summary: Grow your business the right way, and that is through referrals and deep relationships.

2. Miracle Morning for Real Estate Agents– Michael Maher and Hal Elrod
One Sentence Summary: Win the morning, win the day, win the year.

3. Mastermind Dinners– Jayson Gaignard
One Sentence Summary: Become a connector of people and you can succeed at anything.

4. The Art of Selling Real Estate: Patrica Cliff
One Sentence Summary: The Real Estate business is hard work and takes a lot of time, and is the best business there is.

5. The Compound Effect– Darren Hardy
One Sentence Summary: Small changes, every day, over time, yield immense results.

6. Millionaire Real Estate Agent: Gary Keller
One Sentence Summary: Tried and tested strategies to build a referral based real estate business.

7.  How To Leverage Your Real Estate Business With Facebook 
– Skyler Irvine
One Sentence Summary: Proven sales strategies to increase your sales and how to use Facebook to leverage your impact with your sphere, without spending a dime on ads.

How many have you read?

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